Ray Hobbs Rainmaker Applied Intelligence
Chapter Twenty-Five
Junior and JR.
The Truth About Child Support Custody, Paternity & Domestic Violence.
A Father and His Sons, and A Mother and Her Sons
They didn’t want to do it,, .. But their mother made them.
The Mother refused to return these young boys to their Father in another state. He let her off the hook and she went crazy once She returned. The day that the Mother of these young boys told their Father that she taken a job in another and would moving there soon sent up a red flag right away. She immediately offered to agree to these young boys spending the school year with their Father and the summers with Her. Yeah right!. You could smell the shit before it came out of her mouth. She had no intentions of these young boys reuniting with their Father, returning to where the Court Orders originated once they were with Her in another state. And that’s just what happened. So He filed a motion with the Family Courts in that state where they were born and before school started in the Fall they were back home with their Father. She delayed the return by several months and in the end owed over $8k in Child Support for the time she had held them, without consent of the court and in direct conflict with the orders. It was a scam and anyone could see through it. Except His Sons. They were glad to return for the school year with the friends they grew up with. When their Mother returned she began her disrupted ways from day one and chaos, confusion and disarray immediately set in. The Mother of these young boys had just did a three sixty whirlwind of failed attempts to take them to the family compound, in another state, and break the bond and relationship with their Father forever, to no avail. It was not long after settling back into her old ways that She tired of the responsibility, the interaction with the Father of Her sons and made an offer: $3k @ month and He could have His sons with as much as He wanted. There was a catch though that was a deal breaker. She wanted unlimited access whenever She wanted. She could not be trusted no matter what was promised and whatever the Courts said or ordered meant nothing to Her. These young boys were teenagers now and knew how to work this dysfunctional war called co-parenting to their advantage.
Twin Sons, Twin Volvos, … The Tender Years, Day Care, Good Times. During the days when their Mother was at work or weekends when she with her other son , in another state, in another city, with her husband, shopping, at Her Mothers or wherever, these young boys had some great times with their Father. These times were often short lived or unexpectedly interrupted but when the opportunity was there and there was peace in their Father's zip code they made the most of it. The Mother of these young boys had repeatedly warned that at the first opportunity She would be relocating them to another state regardless of what a Family Court Judge said and thier Father knew that she meant it. She had no idea nor concern how these antics could affect them and He had no desire to be a part of this madness for the remainder of their lives and certainly not the rest of His life. He made a decision to garner as much time as He could with them while they were young as I knew that their days together were numbered. It became apparent that they too were aware what was going on and now starting to use it to their advantage to get whatever they wanted or to avoid whatever they had no interest in. Schoolwork was a major disagreement from day one with their Mother and their Father. Their Mother did not appear to have any knowledge, insight or concern about their school work, ever.
When His Sons were in His home and their mother was away with a husband or someone, in another state, or simply gone for a long enough period of time for things to be peaceful, they were in their own world that was exploring, learning, wondering, attentive and interested in everything. There were no limits to imaginations, conversations and they often surprised their Father with what they presented me with. For some reason the Mother of these young boys was more protective of one Son than the other and it seemed at times when she was not around he enjoyed his freedom. Whatever the Father suggested or encourage in him his mother sought to destroy and whenever there was an opportunity to put another man in place of his father she did it. She was a Tramp and a Hood Rat. She was a good cook and children enjoyed being around her but she was a Tramp. Her Sons had visions and spoke of what they wanted to do with their lives and future and the confusion she showered before them, the anger, was painful to watch. They were often placed in a position to often choose between their Mother or Father and it was not nice to see. She was unrelenting on them to prove and vocalize their preferences. …
Two Totally Different Sons, .. ,, . The last real conversation He had with one of His Sons was on the morning His son came by His house on the way to school. His Mother lived a few miles away and I lived a few blocks from His high school. At 6am in the morning He stopped by to tell His Father that He would not be coming to His house again. He was crying and upset. His mother had made him do it but He didn’t want to do it. He didn’t have much time as His classes were starting shortly. His Mother was on a rage that week like every week and every day since Her forced return from another state by The Family Court in the state His Father lived in. While trying to settle His Son down and understand what His Mother was doing the phone rang. It was His other Son, the other twin, He was with His Mother on the way to school. In the background He could hear His Mother saying “ Go ahead tell Him, tell him you are not coming back to his house ever.” After much pause His Son finally said “ I’m not coming back over Dad but I want to maintain a relationship with You.”. Once again His mother in the background could be heard telling Him “ Hang up Hang up…”. And so he did. Whatever just happened it was their Mother’s anger unleashing on their Father. Something was going on in Her life and later it was revealed Her life was falling apart yet again. His Son was still there very upset and so I called his Childless Aunt Twisted Sister WickedWickedWicked and asked her to come over and talk to him hoping She would give reassurance he didn’t have to end the relationship with His Father. Big mistake inviting a Childless Aunt to come over. My expectations of The Childless Aunt Twisted Sister WickedWickedWicked were met with shock and disappointment as once again. She did exactly what a Childless Aunt would do and tell him “ Go with Your Mother you can see Your Father when you grow up ..” This ignorant heifer was uprooting every expensive and stressful victory the Father of these young boys had achieved in the family courts. He warned His Son that His Mother sounded drastic and desperate and if He left then it was likely they would not be seeing each other again. It sounded like she was about to make a run for the border and was taking them with Her. In the two months since her return she turned their world upside down and what was to happen afterwards was beyond my control. All I could do was lower the flame, back off and wait to see what She would do next and for the next time for them to reach out to me. It didn’t happen. Ever.
As infants and toddlers, little boys and pre teens, these boys grew up in a battlefield of daily explosions and minefields they had to navigate during their "tender years." He could not imagine these young boys dealing with the constant conflict and confusion seeing their parents at each others throat every day month after month year after year. He could not do it to them any longer being a part of this battle over time with a biological child. Someone had to let go for their sake.
His Daughters Mother and His Sons Mother became Partners in Alienation, The Disruptors. They had a common goal which was to eliminate Him from "their" children's lives and they were successful. Still in retrospect He could not help but be extremely grateful that He had the courage to walk away from this insanity especially given the peace He was enjoying now. It is not He who is now cursed by these deeds of times past.
Ray Hobbs The Novelist. WickedWickedWicked.